REAL BOYS | If there’s one thing men could learn from this cultural moment, it’s that they have a lot of work to do. Earlier this week, the journalist Eve Peysey published a piece titled “How to Apologize, A Guide for Men,” noting that if there’s one thing absent from the rationalizing explanations issued by Louis C.K., Kevin Spacey, Harvey Weinstein (to say nothing of the flat-out disavowals of Alabama GOP candidate Roy Moore), it’s an inability to say the words “I’m sorry.” A new and fantastic documentary titled The Work, which has been making the festival rounds this year, doesn’t deal directly with the subject of men’s systematic abuse of women, but it certainly serves as a necessary corollary. The one-of-a-kind prison documentary follows three free men sitting in on and participating in a four-day group therapy retreat comprised of (and facilitated by) level-four convicts in Folsom Prison. Through a series of intensely personal therapeutic practices and conversations, the men are able to excavate and isolate a ton of long-buried expressions of toxic masculinity, deeply embedded traumas, and self-flagellation. It’s a suckerpunch of a film (this writer saw it at the Camden Film Festival and cried a ton), but a necessary and unforgettable one. | 7 pm | SPACE Gallery, 538 Congress St., Portland | $8 |


HERE COME THE WINDS | If there’s one thing older generations adore, it’s watching young people passionately adhere to a tradition that they themselves once participated in. Even better if the youths genuinely adore the work they’re doing, as we have no doubt the USM Youth Ensembles Fall Concert participants do. Tonight, the next generation of Maine symphonic musicians and ensembles show off their obliging enthusiasms for orchestral music at the Merrill Auditorium. | 8 pm | Merrill Auditorium, 20 Myrtle St., Portland | FREE |


TONGUE-TIED | The upstart artisanal Westbrook beermakers Mast Landing Brewing Company pairs with Massachusetts based Vitamin Sea for a juicy collabo in the Old Port today, pouring a double-dry hopped IPA called Same Sun that they made together, like friends. They say it tastes tropical, which is rare on the tongue in these days. | 5-7 pm | Thirsty Pig, 37 Exchange St., Portland |


UP FOR A CHAT | The Maine fashion designer, entrepreneur, and cultural commentator Judicaelle Irakoze is the host of Girl Talk, a new series focusing on sisterhood and its various intersections as it plays out in Portland and nationally. Irakoze, a 22-year-old proprietor of Abigaelle Closet and founder of the initiative Choose Yourself, came to Maine via Burundi in 2014. “Girl Talk: A Conversation on Sisterhood, Resilience, and Power,” here in its second installment, is designed as a platform “to help women support other women,” designed to find common ground across generations and other divisions. Her guest today is Lex Schroeder (in full disclosure, the sister of Phoenix editor Nick Schroeder, this writer), a partner with the New York-based organization Feminists At Work, who lately specializes in feminist business model design and last week presented at the 2017 Entrepreneurial Feminists Forum in Toronto. | 5:30 pm | Mayo Street Arts, 10 Mayo St., Portland | FREE |




PLUCKED FROM REALITY | If FAMOUS BANJO PLAYERS were a Family Feud category, then we’d bet Bela Fleck would rank no lower than third, survey says. One of the most respected practitioners of the craft, blurring bluegrass and jazz en route to 16 Grammy wins (wow, actually), Fleck is now removed from his work with the Flecktones. He appears here on tour with Abigail Washburn, the clawhammer banjo player from Illinois, who calls him her husband. She’s on the board too. | 8 pm | State Theatre, 609 Congress St., Portland | $25-50 |


THE ONE | Years ago, I read an interview where someone asked a young Elton John what the strangest thing he'd ever put in his mouth. His answer was unforgettable (and un-Googleable, apparently, making me consider whether I invented it). And though it's technically printable, I'm not going to chance it here. (This was all before he was knighted, of course.) Sir Elton hardly needs a plug from us, but he's going to light up the Civic Center — err, the Cross Insurance Arena tonight. | 8 pm | Cross Insurance Arena, 45 Center St. Portland | SOLD OUT |




IN THE ROTATION | The Maine Roller Derby get at it tonight with their annual Thanks-For-Giving bout, bending the rules of play for the benefit of charity. As they have it, those who donate during the bout will be able to send skaters to the penalty box, add points to their favorite team, and reverse the direction of the game. Wild! It all benefits the Opportunity Alliance, an organization which supports advocacy, health services, crisis intervention and more for needy Maine families. | 8 pm | Happy Wheels Skating Center, 331 Warren Ave., Portland | $6-8 |


GREAT APES | Boston’s Hayley Jane and the Primates, billed as “theatrical folkadelic Americana,” seem true to their name. As frontwoman Hayley Jane explains in an interview with Relix magazine, she grew up Christian and obsessed with the relationship between humans and monkeys. They're safe odds at a good time. | 8 pm | Portland House of Music and Events, 25 Temple St., Portland | $8 |  


ROLE REVERSAL | The dance/burlesque troupe Red, Hot, and Ladylike have 35 dancers under their banner. Tonight, they mobilize to “stimulate your imagination from the temple to the brothel, through the after-school halls and to the moon” with a show titled “Give Spanks.” While we’re not wholly sure what they mean by all that, we’re in full support of women defining the terms of fantasy in this era of radical empowerment, while numerous pillars of a patriarchal order are being toppled and held accountable for assault, rape, and systemic abuse of power. And wouldn’t you know it — 100 percent of proceeds benefit the Family Crisis Center, an organization fighting to end domestic violence. We don’t know how much the dancers themselves want to politicize this stuff — they might just like to dance. We’re just saying nothing is without context. And no (wo)man is an island. | 8 pm | Port City Music Hall, 504 Congress St., Portland | $20-35 |


CHAPTER BREAK | Even though insidious forces have conspired to saturate our free time, exasperate our attention spans, and keep us in a state of deep social media paralysis and paycheck-to-paycheck precarity such that it would seem that the only folks who actually have the expendable time to purchase and read printed matter are so-called elites of the leisure class, we’re all smart enough to know what’s really going on. Books fully rule, and tell you what! They still literally make the best holiday presents. Today at Print, the bookstore at the foot of Munjoy Hill, stock up on holiday gifts at their one-year-anniversary sale, where a whole bunch of books will be 20 percent off. (We’re sure other area bookstores are doing sales soon too.) | 10 am-7 pm | Print: A Bookstore, 273 Congress St., Portland |




HOW TO DO A LIFE | New Mainer Abdi Nor Iftin left East Africa in 2014, arriving by way of a U.S. Diversity Visa Lottery system and a bureaucracy-fueled waiting period so excessive his story was later the subject of an episode of This American Life (called “Abdi and the Golden Ticket,”). Today, he’s not such a new Mainer anymore, studying poly-sci at the University of Maine and working as an interpreter in Somali communities. He’s a big personality and a talker (hence the podcast), and his appearance at the High Mountain Hall in Camden Sunday afternoon should illuminate the experiences of refugees and asylum seekers pre- and post-immigration while checking off a few charming boxes as well.| 2 pm | High Mountain Hall, 5 Mountain St., Camden |


DERN TOOTIN’ | The boisterous Portland bluegrass group Dark Hollow Bottling Company do their thing tonight at Blue as part of a monthly residency. See why the barn-burning five-piece is up for one of our Portland Music Awards.| 8 pm | Blue, 650 Congress St., Portland | by donation  



WE ALL FALL DOWN | In the early stages of a courtship or the middling stages of a friendship, it’s a nice idea to do a sort of diagnostics test on humility. Laughing at yourself is fun, arguably one of the first “games” people played (with their own psyches). As we know from the French philosopher Henri Bergson, comedy is a sort of “momentary anesthesia of the heart” that arrives in the sort of gray area between the expected and the impossible — the slip on the banana peel, for instance. You may agree that ice skating, a thing humans weren’t designed to do, is an activity often deeply in the service of laughter. The Rink at Thompson’s Point opens this afternoon for a third season, where lovers, families, and neighbors can suffer the rigors of winter in communion. This year, they’ve added a beginner’s rink for young skaters, leaving the main pond to adults and their various embarrassments. | 3-9 pm | The Rink at Thompson’s Point, 10 Thompson’s Point Rd., Portland | $8, $5 youth |


MEET ME IN THE CAVE | Sometimes, the venue a concert is held in can function as one of the artists on the bill. We really like seeing shows at Oxbow Blending and Bottling. We can’t always figure out why — it’s a big, chilly, cavernous and ill-lit warehouse on the edge of town, but that’s often exactly the mood we’re in when we want to appreciate music. (Plus, they’ve got good beer and that dope fernet from Liquid Riot.) Tonight, a few off-kilter folk songwriters convene there, and it’s a lovely Monday hang. See Montreal’s garage-folk maker Ada Lea and the experimental post-punk group Goodfight (from Brooklyn) playing with locals The Loblolly Boy and New Spine, the latter a tenderhearted roots-folk outfit fronted by Geneviève Beaudoin and aided by a cello. | 8 pm | Oxbow Blending and Bottling, 49 Washington Ave., Portland | prolly a few bux |




FORK TONGUES | If you’re on the hook for a Friendsgiving platter and don’t know when you’ll fit in the kitchen time, solutions exist at Fork Food Lab in Bayside. They host a “One Stop Thanksgiving Pop-Up Shop” from noon to five today, where elaborate and many-flavored desserts will be repped by local companies like The Whole Almond (granola), Bubbe and Bestemor (cookies), Renee By the Bay Maine Pies (tarts) and more. | Fork Food Lab | 72 Parris St., Portland |



SO ANX | Americans tend to treat this evening as a sort of nebulous interzone where it’s difficult to know which rules or social customs apply. It’s the evening before a family holiday — which is both uncomfortable for a certain and subjective batch of reasons (familial, trauma-related, dysfunctional) and also another set of reasons (colonialism, imperialism, racism), and often also excessively comfortable for yet another set of reasons (reprieve from capitalism, yesteryear nostalgia, binge nourishment), a condition which can sometimes unlock even more discomfort (lethargy, flatulence, confusion, dehydration, etc.) — which is itself the evening before an exercise in corporate-manufactured resource scarcity, which carries us until the dark season. So you’re forgiven if you don’t know what to do with tonight. Direct that wayward energy to Flask, where you’ll find other caught-in-the-middle types dancing it out at Drip Sweat, a dance party with DJ Double Dessert. | 9 pm | Flask Lounge, 117 Spring St., Portland | FREE |


ALT-AUGHTIES | Elsewhere, two of Portland’s interminable rock bands, Sidecar Radio and Paranoid Social Club, join forces to play songs they haven’t played in a while. Fronted by Walt Craven from go-for-it rock Portland rock band 6gig in the early 2000s (who got caught up in a national discussion for Ozzfest-style alt-metal bands), Sidecar Radio plays a more melodic, anthemic style. They officially split up in 2012, so their appearance is a special one. Paranoid play more frequently, a rock group side project of Rustic Overtones' frontman Dave Gutter whose sound can vacillate between Sugar Ray and the Foo Fighters. A decent community hang. | 8 pm | Port City Music Hall, 504 Congress St., Portland | $8-10 |



RE-FLOW | While we're not going to outright tell you to spend Thanksgiving Day in some sort of volunteer service — everyone works hard and deserves some rest — we'd nudge you to consider supporting the organizations working to help those around us who don't have access to such comforts, whether they be soup kitchens like Wayside Food Programs, restorative justice organizations like Greater Portland SURJ (Showing Up for Racial Justice), labor organizations pushing for causes like paid sick days (Southern Maine Workers' Center), or decolonization efforts working for advocacy and rights for indigenous peoples (such as Maine-Wabanaki REACH).

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